Eileen Cook Author, Writing Consultant, Editor

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Get Busy Reading People- there are more books waiting

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Birthday Wisdom

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Thanks to all who wished me a happy birthday on Facebook and Twitter. It was indeed a good day and I hope it kicks off a great year. As they tend to do, my birthday left me with some time to reflect. Here’s the wisdom I’ve gained so far.

1) What other people think doesn’t really matter that much. There are a few select people, DH, my parents, good friends whose opinion matters greatly- but how everyone else views me is up to them. I’m not interested in spending time seeking to impress anyone else. It isn’t that I don’t want other people to think I’m smart, or funny, or successful, or well dressed, but spending time seeking approval from everyone is exhausting. It occurs to me that it matters most if I am happy with myself.

2) It’s better to spend time on things that matter. What those things might be vary from person to person, but it occurs to me as I get older that there won’t be infinite time. I’m learning to say no to things that fill time, but don’t make my life or the world better. There is such a thing as a “clean enough” house when the the time could be spent with a friend.

3) Gratitude: I am aware of how fortunate I am. I have good health, I am still married after all these years to someone that I actually really like, I have had the chance to see my books on shelves (and even better in the hands of readers), I am surrounded by good friends and family. My goal is to never confuse day to day problems with major issues. If I want drama I’ll go to the theatre.

4) Life is what you make of it: There are no do-overs in life. (Unless you believe in reincarnation, which is an entirely different blog post.) Save for the trip you want to take, learn what interests you, take up a new activity, read a book that challenges you, take a risk- you don’t know what you might achieve if you just gave it a shot. Best publishing advice I ever got was when a published author heard me moaning about being afraid of rejection and pointed out: Hey, you’re already not published. The worst that will happen if you send your writing off is that you still won’t be published.” What are you not doing simply because you might fail? Unless it’s skydiving, failure isn’t really that bad. You’re tougher than you think.

5) Don’t be a dick/subtitled: It doesn’t cost much to be kind: There are enough people who think Galileo had it wrong and the planets revolve around them- don’t be one of them. Take time to say thank you, hold the door for someone, offer to help someone put a heavy bag in the overhead bin, let the person with only one item go ahead of you in the check out lane. Someone can disagree with your viewpoint and you don’t need to argue them into submission. It doesn’t take that much effort to be kind and it really does make the world a better place. I pass an elderly woman (I’m guessing late 80’s) quite often when I’m walking my dog. The other day she stopped me and said “Seeing you and your big smile makes my whole day. It feels so good to be seen. I’m always disappointed when I miss you.” Making someone’s day by just smiling at them? Not bad.

6) Know what makes you happy: In my case, good friends, books, a glass of wine and good conversation, a cup of tea, a nap on the sofa with my dog, yarn, singing with the radio in the car, a great meal, the smell of cookies in the oven, learning something new, a lazy night of snuggling up and catching up on things we DVR’d early in the week, reading the NYT on the weekend, flowers, perfume, dog kisses, laughing, good shoes, fancy pens, blank notebooks, people watching, a nice massage, art, being near the water, being inside in front of the fire on a day that is cold and rainy, getting a new book idea…. Know what makes you happy and do more of it.

Who knows what I might figure out this year?

It’s going to be a busy week

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My to-do list is long so things around here may be quiet. Feel free to fill your time by leaving nice reviews of my books in various places.

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REMEMBER Contest

rememberMy new book REMEMBER comes out soon- so why not celebrate with a contest?

How would you like to win not only a FREE copy of REMEMBER, but also a free copy of the Cat Patrick novel of your choice? Why share Cat’s book too? (Other than the fact they are fabulous?) Because Cat was nice enough to say this about REMEMBER:

‚ÄúCompelling combination of twisty mystery and realistic romance.”

Entering to win is easy. All you have to do is tweet or Facebook any of the following:
– A copy of the cover and how you’re looking forward to reading it.
– Any one of the buy links listed below

Indie Bound: http://www.indiebound.org/book/9781481416962
Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Remember-Eileen-Cook/dp/1481416960
Barnes & Noble: http://www.barnesandnoble.com/w/remember-eileen-cook/1119701400
Chapters/Indigo: http://www.chapters.indigo.ca/en-ca/books/remember/9781481416962-item.html

Be sure if you put it on Facebook you tag me and if you use twitter include @eileenwriter so you’re sure to be entered.

A winner will be selected March 6, 2015

Random Monday

Random thoughts in my head in no particular order:

In case I haven’t hustled my own book to you already (My dad is in the clear- he buys by the case lot. I’m looking at the rest of you here)- just a reminder that my new book REMEMBER is out February 24. No reason to play hard to get. Feel free to order now.

I am somewhat impressed that the bulk of spam I get to this site is for designer handbags. There are moments when I feel like they almost get me- then they send spam for erectile dysfunction and I rethink that idea.

This week is DH’s birthday. I am plotting a birthday cake- lemon raspberry. Not only does this allow me to spoil him (which he richly deserves) but also lets me bust out my KitchenAid mixer which gives me great joy.

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